Friday, August 16, 2019

Don't Label Me a Mommy Blogger.

Don't get me wrong, I love being a Mom and I love being a blogger. But recently I've felt a push against being labelled a Mommy Blogger. 

I've always loved being a blogger and although my motherhood journey and my life as a blogger pretty much started at the same time, I don't like the idea of them becoming one in the same.

When I became a blogger and started creating content I was fresh out of University and within the space of two months I was pregnant with my first baby. It was just an opportunity for me to brand myself and have something to talk about that others could relate too. The blogging and content creating community became a space for me to learn and voice my concerns. Naturally a lot of what I started to project and talk about, was my pending motherhood.

But now my little boy is one, I feel my life going in a new direction. Motherhood was my whole world for two years and still will be but it doesn't have to be my whole life. 

I'm starting to get my independence back. Going back to work means I spend a lot of time doing work for others and the other half of my time is spent on my parenting duties. Blogging and content creating has slowly started to have less and less time in my week. 

When I was on maternity I had all the time in the world, besides the vomit, poo and screaming, to put my energy into blogging. Although my love and creativity for it has grown my time has decreased. 

So am I being fair for wanting to have it for myself? That one thing in all the madness that is for me. My time.

I don't want the label to define me. I love being a mommy blogger but I don't want that to be the only thing I can talk about. I love and enjoy so many other things, I don't like the idea of being in one box.

But, I'm finding it hard. Hard to differentiate myself from things. Being a mom, naturally I want to talk about my kid, every parents experience is different and like most moms we want to hear about how everyone else is coping. I got myself stuck in the label because a) I had kind of lost myself during maternity, b)I didn't think I was wanted for anything else from my followers.

To me being a mom is the best thing in the world and being a blogger is one of the only things I really enjoy that is just for myself. 

When I go to functions or events and I'm asked to describe myself I naturally say: Hi, I'm Leah and I'm a Mom. After maternity I found it really difficult to portray myself in any other light, I'm a mom...what else? and I guess that's how I felt about blogging because I knew I was more than just a mom blogger and wanted to talk about other things, but what?

My blogging journey started before pregnancy so I must have wanted to talk about other things?

Since going back to work I have found myself again. I find myself talking about what happened on TV, something I couldn't talk to my newborn about. Although I want to go back to pre-pregnancy blogging I find a shift in my interests. 

Before pregnancy I was fuelled by makeup, going out and being a student. Now I find myself loving fashion, which I hated before and talking about interiors.

I find being a 'Mommy Blogger' super limiting. Limiting to what content I can take, what I can write and since working with brands and getting paid work, I find being preferred to as a Mom by a PR rep pretty suffocating. 

Brands want you to promote your kids new shoes but not your own, because you're just the mom.

Pretty dehumanising right?

I guess what I'm trying to say through all this ramble is, I'm breaking out of a box. That little mommy blogging box where all I talk about is how tired I am but how cute my baby is. 

Being a Mommy Blogger is a great thing. If that is you, then great. But it's not me. I will still continue to ramble about my kid and how I'm stumbling through motherhood but that isn't all I want to be submitted to.

I'm going to start being a little more true to myself. Talking about everything, anything and what ever tickles my fancy. 

So goodbye to being that girl who's only identity is being a mom. 

Focusing on me, my interests and my life. Mom or not.


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